The Narrative-Self Vs. Fundamental Wellbeing
- The average person lives with an experience of the world that is rooted in fear, worry, anxiety, and scarcity. Often it is just a feeling that haunts us in the background. This feeling can disappear when a desire is achieved, but the relief is only temporary. A tiny fraction of the population that seems to have escaped this fate.
- The Finders discontent and fear has been replaced by a sense that everything is fundamentally okay, that you are safe, whole, and fine just as you are.
- Abraham Maslow developed The hierarchy of human needs: The general idea is that we must have our basic needs, like food, met before all others. Then we must have our safety needs met. Then we need to be loved and respected. When all of that is in place, we can finally be self-actualized. Self-actualization can be defined as “the achievement of one’s full potential through creativity, independence, spontaneity, and a grasp of the real world” Maslow later improved his theory by adding transcending the limitations of the individual self, and tapping into the resources of something that’s beyond it. Maslow called it the high-plateau experience. We refer to it academically as Ongoing or Persistent forms of Non-Symbolic Experience (ONE or PNSE), and in this book we call it Fundamental Wellbeing.
- There are many different forms of Fundamental Wellbeing. They have no external markers. Outwardly, they seem like everyone else, but internally, the way they experience the world around them couldn’t be more different.
The Finders know, absolutely, that the voice in their head is not who they really are. They have come to understand it as one of several interrelated aspects of their mind that combine to create a distinct lens through which the world is experienced.
- Narrative-Self: is the chatty, self-critical, story-based form of self.
- Once the effects of the Narrative-Self are minimized, a huge change occurs. Subjectively, it feels like a deeper and more foundational version of the true you comes into view. Practically, it shows up as a steadier experience of wellbeing and contentment. Regardless of life circumstances, it produces a deep sense that everything is okay and that you are safe.
- Components of the Narrative-Self are:
- The Problem Solver: during our developmental years, the Narrative-Self is a valuable ally. The brain is powerfully driven to seek success, and avoid undesirable consequences. It craves the rewards that come with being correct. Very pleasurable chemicals are released in the brain not only when we get something right or solve a problem, but also when we believe we are heading in the correct direction.
- The Story Weaver: At times it will be your strongest advocate, minimize your failures and shortcomings, and maximize your successes and accomplishments. In other moments, it will do the exact opposite and chastise you for your mistakes and shortcomings. The constant reworking of the overall narrative, along with the virtually endless sub-stories creates a problem over time. Memories only store things from our perspective. And each time we recall something, it is brought up for revision and then stored again. Fictional and accurate elements continue to morph. The original reality of what happened fades even further making our life story increasingly inaccurate over time.
- The Caretaker: it sees itself as your best hope for survival and improvement. The story weaver and the problem finder combine with other elements from your Narrative-Self to form a nexus that creates the caretaker.
- When the Narrative-Self lost its importance or fell silent, remarkable things occurred. A deep and Fundamental Wellbeing took root and anxiety, stress, and depression evaporated. The tendency to live in the future or dwell in the past receded, and their awareness became more centered in the present moment. Each moment tended to feel just fine, exactly as it was, no matter what was happening. Despite this, they were still able to skillfully discriminate and navigate the world, perhaps more so than ever before. They are no longer on the hunt for what they could add to themselves, because they know, absolutely, that they are whole. Their search is over. This is why the project refers to them Finders.
- Many forms of Fundamental Wellbeing have been discovered and cultivated by religion over time. What was happening in Finders was not being detected by the standard measures used in psychology. When you come across one Finder in the general populace, it is almost certain that they will be in communication with one or two others. The experience of Fundamental Wellbeing can be very isolating. A Finder’s best bet for support often comes from materials other Finders have produced, and from interacting with other Finders.
The Core Aspects of Fundamental Wellbeing
- As the interviews continued a pattern began to emerge. It became apparent that ways of experiencing life fell along a single path, a specifically ordered continuum of related conscious experiences called Locations.
- We think there may be up to twenty locations. The vast majority of Finders are in Locations 1 through 4. Each higher numbered location seemed to bring a greater reduction in the Narrative-Self, and higher wellbeing.
- When a person transitions into Fundamental Wellbeing, s/he seems to be able to initially “land” in any location from 1 to 4. None of the research participants’ starting position on the continuum was Location 5 or later.
- Movement between locations can be either ‘forward’ or ‘backward’.
- All locations can be viewed as having equal value. Each brings its own way of experiencing Fundamental Wellbeing.
- After a few transitions, most Finders reach the conclusion that there are probably many more aspects of the Narrative-Self that remain hidden from view, and that they can expect to have these be revealed and fall away as their deepening on the continuum continues.
- Almost all Finders agreed that their initial transition was just the beginning of a process that seemed to be able to unfold, and deepen, endlessly—a never-ending adventure.
- Many religions and spiritual systems focus on only a limited subset of locations. They often view other locations as invalid.
- Location 1: individuals are on the earliest portion of the continuum. The most telltale sign is a newfound sense that everything is fundamentally fine. Experience a heightened sense of being complete. Individuals notice that their focus is now more centered in the present moment. Memories spontaneously arise less often, causing these Finders to sometimes believe that they are experiencing problems with their memory. Their personal story has become less interesting. One of the things most Finders notice first is a reduction in their interest in nearly all stories. Relationships generally do adapt, but it is also common for old friends to drift away and new ones to enter the picture that are more aligned with the Finder’s new relationship preferences.
- Location 1 Finders still experience a range of positive and negative emotions. Negative emotions are much more transient and do not have the power over them that they once did. Finder’s sense of self often becomes larger and feels like it expands beyond the physical body. The experience of physical pain changes, and may be significantly reduced. A new form of humor begins to emerge, one which sees much of what is directly experienced in life as quite peculiar and funny when paid close attention to.
- It is common for Finders who initially cross over into Location 1 to have a strong, even burning, desire to help others experience Fundamental Wellbeing.
- Location 1 Finders often still have conditioning that relates to approval from others. Social interaction often remains more fluid and natural when compared with other Finders.
- Location 2: Finders experience a further reduction in their Narrative-Self related thoughts, which makes them even less reactive. The range of emotions becomes increasingly positive, and negative emotions become less frequent. The boundaries between what feels like you and what feels like outside of you increasingly soften or disappear entirely (nonduality, or “not two.”). Location 2 Finders are more likely to intuitively feel that there is a correct decision or path to take when presented with choices, even if there seems to be very little rationality behind the direction being taken.
- As a Finder gets closer to Location 3, their internal emotional makeup is almost exclusively positive.
- Location 3: Finders have been freed from a considerable amount of their psychological conditioning and negative emotions. Facets such as love are felt as divine or universal, or at a minimum, impersonal. Parts of negative emotions are still occasionally felt but only rarely fully form. When living moment-to-moment in a place of Fundamental Wellbeing, anything that disturbs it, however minor, is difficult to miss. They can feel like a “blessing” is radiating out to everyone in their presence. The world is seen as having a profound degree of perfection.
- Location 4: The remaining vestiges of Narrative-Self related thought can be completely gone by this point, along with any experience of emotion. A much more comprehensive form of nonduality occurs at this stage. These individuals typically report having no sense of agency, nor any ability to make a decision. Most report a complete and unwavering immersion in the present moment. It feels as if life is simply unfolding and they are watching the process happen. None of this seems to impact their ability to perform at very high levels. One undesirable issue for them is memory deficits.
- Location 4 Finders report an even deeper sense of peace and wellbeing. These seem to be an order of magnitude greater than previous locations. Complete disappearance of any need for approval from others.
- There are four observable patterns that manifest after the transition to Location 4: Some choose to stay in Location 4 and deepen into it. Others reject it all together. Others turn back towards earlier locations on the continuum. These Fluid 4’s often gain the capacity to shift between locations. The other path that people take out of Location 4 involves moving further along the continuum.
- Practically speaking, fluidity generally involves Locations 2 through 4. Fluid 5’s report that it is much more difficult for them to switch to Location 4 and earlier, though it can be done.
- Location 5 And Beyond: Location 4 is most frequently described as the point where a great deal has been dissolved and disassembled, and a new level of opportunity created. Location 5 and later brings “reintegration” beyond anything that can previously be imagined. Each location from Location 5 onward generally involves at least one additional cycle of deep disassembly and reintegration. There is a scrubbing away of the last vestiges of the Narrative-Self, and more.
- Transitions in these later locations can cause temporary glitches in how these core systems function within the body. Some individuals remained unconscious, or who had serious difficulties with the function of their bodies for periods of days, weeks, and even longer.
- Up to Location 4, the continuum is a single path. Things get more complicated at Location 5, and two different routes open up. The first, which will be referred to as the Path of Freedom (PoF), looks very much like a continuation of Location 4. The second one, the Path of Humanity (PoH), bears a greater resemblance to earlier locations.
- By the end of Location 9, when asked about their experience, regardless of path, Finders generally say something like, “it feels like it is just the universe looking out these eyes.”
- A number of longstanding religious and spiritual systems with an interest in the further reaches of Fundamental Wellbeing go to great lengths to warn people about how tricky the “self” can be.
- It’s easy to feel like you’re making progress, only to later discover that the Narrative-Self is in control, and has been fooling you and limiting your progress the entire time.
- One primary difference between the PoF and the PoH is that Finders on the PoH often describe a reintegration of and return to emotional experience. This leads to Finders feeling more “human” again.
- Often, changes in the visual system seem to occur beginning around Location 5 and increase in intensity through Location 8. Locations 6 through 9 typically bring dramatically increased reports of accurate premonitions, intuition, and related experiences. The closer a Finder gets to Location 9, the more reports of mind-matter interaction also appear.
- A normal person believes they are their body because that is what they can feel, control the motor actions of, and so on. Finders in these later locations often feel that “they are the universe,” not a being who is confined to a body.
- The seeds of desire for increasing isolation begin in Location 4.
- It appears that key parts of their brain and its underlying networks that deal with symbolic thought and language undergo substantial change. Internally this can feel like something akin to a competition for energy in the brain. When left alone to continue resting and deepening into Fundamental Wellbeing, this energy produces a profound sense of freedom and peace. Deepening in Fundamental Wellbeing feels far more desirable and rewarding than spending time with other people.
- Later location PoF Finders have the sense that their form of consciousness is supporting the evolution of consciousness for all of humanity, and often much more. Their deepening on the continuum is widening a currently narrow path for others to increasingly be able to follow.
- The individuals who have made it to the furthest reaches of the continuum seemed to have built-in capabilities that facilitated it and were often foreshadowed since early childhood.
The Lived Reality Of Fundamental Wellbeing
- The most universal change reported by Finders relates to their internal sense of self, or what it feels like to be them. Location 2 brings a more substantial change, it no longer feels like there is a strong, separate self that is looking out; there is only seeing. The looker appears to be unnecessary. Location 3 is dual, but not in the same way as Location 1. The nature of self and other is much subtler.
- The later the location, the more surprised a Finder often is to learn that unsuspected, hidden parts of their former sense of self have been lurking out of view.
- Finders experience a significant shift in the nature and quantity of their cognition (thoughts and thinking).
- Across the continuum, nearly everyone reports a significant reduction in, or even complete absence of, thoughts. However, a small percentage report just the opposite, that the quantity of their thoughts increases. Thoughts just come and go. They lack the power and saliency to “grab” or “pull” these individuals into the long thought streams and internal narratives. Although they may not realize it, for non-Finders self-referential thoughts constitute a huge part of daily thinking.
- Finders generally report that their problem-solving ability, and mental capacity and capability, have increased because they are not being crowded out or influenced by the noise of these missing thoughts.
- Finders typically experience significant reductions in emotion. Finders at Locations 1 generally experience a full range of emotions, and negative emotions fall off more rapidly. As Finders mature in Location 2, their emotional life becomes more and more positive. Negative emotions are rare. At Location 3, Finders typically only feel a single, positive emotion. At Location 4, Finders report an absence of emotion.
- Participants at all locations reported levels of equanimity that can easily be referred to as inner peace. In Locations 1 and 2, this feeling of equanimity can be temporarily, partially, and even heavily obscured. It usually occurs when they are confronted with external circumstances and situations that cause them to react.
- It is not uncommon for Finders in Location 1 and 2 to get separated or divorced.
- It’s very common for Finders in Locations 1 through 4 to report having at least one core issue that remains seemingly unresolved. They almost always know what it is.
- Perceptual changes occur and grow more significant from location to location along the continuum. Reports of feeling a lack of agency are consistent across these Finders in Location 4. They say their best guess is that their behavior comes from some combination of genetics and biology, environment, and societal and cultural conditioning. The second most common answer was simply, “God.”
- A tiny number of Finders experience a shift to 2-D vision. In this state the world seems to be moving through them. Generally, this occurs at Location 4 and beyond.
- In addition to inner peace, perhaps no other topic is as associated with Fundamental Wellbeing as living in “present-moment awareness”.
- Participants in the study reported a significant increase in their experience of, and effortless focus on, what was happening in the present moment, along with a dramatic reduction in thoughts about the past and future.
- A Finder’s heightened present-moment awareness brings greater attention to sensory information. They may notice, for example, that their sense of smell has diminished. This is the first sense that drops off as they lose their present-moment focus. Noticing it weakening allows them to stay present. Typically, the further along the continuum a Finder is located, the more reliably they are rooted in the present moment.
- The Finders’ shift away from the Narrative-Self reduces the importance placed on their personal life history, or “story.” This leads to less emphasis on their memories of the past. The strength of emotions linked to memories is greatly reduced in Finders. The further they are along the continuum, virtually no memories remain with emotional content.
- Long-time Finders often say that it “doesn’t really matter” when someone transitions to Fundamental Wellbeing. They simply no longer remember what life was like before they were a Finder, so it doesn’t seem like a big deal to become one. Conversely, Finders who have recently transitioned often want those they care most about, and sometimes even everyone in general, to be able to experience Fundamental Wellbeing. This zeal normally wears off as Fundamental Wellbeing becomes their new norm. One unintended consequence of this pattern is that many of the books, videos, and other materials produced, especially in the West, about Fundamental Wellbeing come from people who lived relatively unhappy lives prior to their transition. These materials often make Fundamental Wellbeing seem terrifying to pursue for the average person. Tales of “dark nights of the soul” abound. Ironically, the authors and teachers who produce these materials often become Fundamental Wellbeing’s strongest advocates. From the research we know that these once tortured souls represent a tiny fraction of those who become Finders. Most ‘ordinary’ people transition, and simply go on with their lives.
- Along the continuum, Finders report difficulty with encoding memories of the events. While this is their perception, it does not appear to be entirely the case. They are typically rich sources of personal history. Their perceived memory loss seemed to primarily be an illusion created by the further reduction in or absence of the self-referential thoughts that brought memories to mind prior to Fundamental Wellbeing.
- Finders often have a reduced interest in stories, and perhaps unsurprisingly, some cannot recall the details of many of the movies they’ve watched or books they’ve read that are story-based.
- There is one noticeable memory issue that seems to be a reliable and genuine deficit. These individuals are often unable to remember planned events and scheduled appointments that are not part of a routine. Many add scheduled events to a list as they are making plans. They display these lists in places around their house where they’re most likely to be noticed.
- Many Finders experience a rapid and immediate shift into Fundamental Wellbeing, and one of the closest similarities to it is being awakened from sleep in the middle of a dream.
- Some Finders use the term “awakening” to describe their transition. The physical world around them, in most cases, did not change. Yet, the experience of it, and how it is perceived and related to, did. It is also common to hear a Finder talking about experiencing “reality” or the “real world” for the “very first time.” It can feel like a psychological death, yet the only thing that seems to actually leave is the Narrative-Self. The Narrative-Self seems to be the part of us that fears and obsesses about death. Fear of death is one of the things that fades away for most when Fundamental Wellbeing arrives. Life is still cherished, but death is not feared.
- Another remarkable thing that arrives with Fundamental Wellbeing is a sense of completeness. The entire marketing industry thrives on pointing out this hole and the persistent underlying sense of discontentment that everyone has in them, and then trying to convince them a product or service will fill it. Of course, the hole never gets filled. Fundamental Wellbeing fills the hole. More correctly, it produces the realization that there never was a hole at all.
- Finders in Location 1 and the early portions of Location 2 have higher amounts of agency and conditioned behavior. At these locations, even very materialistic goals, remain fairly common just after the transition. However, these Finders typically notice that they are no longer willing to make the same degree of sacrifice to achieve these types of goals. By the later portions of Location 2, and into Location 3, reductions in both conditioning and the importance of outcomes make goal attainment increasingly less pertinent. At Location 4, life seems to simply be unfolding. Goals don’t seem especially relevant, though things continue to get done.
- Among groups that seek to quiet their minds with contemplative prayer, meditation, or similar methods, it’s not uncommon to encounter phrases like “the motion of thought” or “the movement of thought.”
- Agency refers to the ability to take actions and make decisions. Finders still make decisions and take actions, but how it feels changes.
- Fundamental Wellbeing can impact behavior involving addictions. Some Finders say that their transition cured their alcoholism or drug abuse. Paradoxically, however, plenty of other Finders remain alcoholics or drug addicts, smoke, and / or engage in similar types of activities.
- The Narrative-Self’s stories magnify and extend the underlying physical pain. With this sense of self weakened or out of the way, the experience of pain fundamentally changes, and is reduced.
- A small number of Finders experience a deep bliss sensation all through their body, including during moments that would otherwise be physically painful.
- A commonly used word among some Finders is embodiment. In general there are two high-level ways it is used:
- Fundamental Wellbeing as primarily being “in the head,” or conscious awareness focused. This, they argue, misses the rest of the body. A great deal of our psychological conditioning is tied to the body.
- The second way this term is often used is a bit more esoteric. It deals with a belief in specific types of “energies” and “energy flows” that are said to occur in or around the body. The gist is that by becoming aware of these various energies and doing certain things with them, such as moving them around the body in specific ways or amplifying them, it creates more capacity for, or even directly charges up a person’s physiology with, Fundamental Wellbeing.
- Finders can be racist and sexist. Because of their hidden nature, Finders often don’t have much if any motivation to work on or correct these types of inclinations.
- How we feel when relaxed (zoomed-out) is very different from how we feel when focused and working on something, or engrossed in a movie (zoomed-in). The average person is hyper-focused the influence of the Narrative-Self can be minimized as when in the “flow state” or being “in the zone.”
- At the furthest reaches of zooming-out, some refer to being immersed in, or existing as, undifferentiated spaciousness or awareness. When zoomed this far out, a Finder typically cannot interact with the world around them.
- Finders can zoom in to a cluster and immerse themselves in its unique sense of self, then zoom back out again. Some have a great deal of control over how far they zoom and the degree to which a cluster can grab them and pull them in. Others experience the process as automatic.
- Many Finders were self-help junkies prior to Fundamental Wellbeing. After the transition, their newfound sense of completeness can dampen this behavior.
- Finders believe that the Narrative-Self “smoothes out” the experience of switching between these various, separate, and quite different “self-like” clusters.
Epilogue: The Future Of Fundamental Wellbeing
- There are a handful of sects that directly focus on Location 4, and even 5+. Often these are monastic or communal.
- There are many Finders who have reached Location 4 while raising a family, holding down a job, and otherwise living a ‘normal’ life. However, it does seem that even these individuals reach it more rapidly with intense and dedicated focus.
- Our data suggests that Fundamental Wellbeing has started spreading much more widely, and rapidly, since around 1995 and the dawn of the digital age.
- Usually the transition to Fundamental Wellbeing does not immediately, significantly affect a person’s morality or values, although in some cases it does.
- Leading positive psychology researchers have noted many benefits that increased wellbeing brings to families and communities. Individuals with high wellbeing can be more charitable, creative, helpful, and self-confident. They often exhibit increased self-control and coping abilities. Other benefits may include: greater productivity, higher work quality, longer and more satisfying marriages, stronger social support, higher activity and energy levels, an increased sense of flow, a stronger immune system, lower stress levels, reduced amounts of pain, and even a longer life.
- All Finders seem to have unique aspects to how they experience Fundamental Wellbeing. These variations, merged with their certainty, can lead them to assume that their personal experience of it is the only “proper,” “correct,” or “true” one. As time passes, this certainty can increase and lead to a form of dogmatism.
- Finders who have moved back and forth between locations often observe that each location brings a distinct flavor of “Truth.” Something that seems true to a Finder in Location 3 might not seem true at all in Location. Most typically, Finders happen into a specific type of Fundamental Wellbeing and remain locked in it from that point forward. This doesn’t have to be the case. Some elements can be consciously manipulated to shape the experience in preferred ways.
- A key to describing Fundamental Wellbeing limitation comes from the structure of language itself. This makes it difficult to convey to those who do not share the same experiences. Similarly, Finders can be trapped in the words and descriptions of their religious or spiritual traditions.
- It is likely that our society will face a point when we will be making value judgments regarding how Fundamental Wellbeing is best experienced.
- Many individuals experience Fundamental Wellbeing for only a few moments. To be a Finder, your Fundamental Wellbeing has to be persistent and ongoing. Our data suggests that if it has lasted for over seven months, it will probably stick around for the long haul.
- Maslow studied temporary states of Fundamental Wellbeing called Peak Experiences. They are a psychological state that takes one beyond the Narrative-Self. They can include intense emotions, as well as feelings of ecstasy, euphoria, unity, harmony, and interconnectedness. They can also have a noetic quality where deeper ‘Truth’ is revealed, as well as a spiritual or religious character. They often depart as mysteriously as they arrive, however they can leave deep and lasting psychological transformation. They typically involve a state of high physiological arousal.
- Many Finders believe that Fundamental Wellbeing cannot be lost, and that “real” Finders will never lose their experience of it.
- Many people who pursue Fundamental Wellbeing believe in doing psychological and other self-help work as part of the process. The idea is to clean up their psychological baggage as much as possible before they transition.
- Stress is the number one cause of losing Fundamental Wellbeing.
- It is common for participants to feel more connected and in-tune with their bodies than is actually the case. This often continues to grow the further along the continuum someone goes.
- Some Finders who had transitioned to and remained in a single location for decades reported that the stress of an event was what shook them into one or more other locations.
- Many people who rejected Fundamental Wellbeing had one major thing in common: they had experienced rapid transitions that took them directly into Location 4.
- Occasionally, Finders will report rejecting the shift to a new location on the continuum. This almost always involves moving into Location 4. At Location 3, religious Finders usually experience an intense union with the divine. Its sudden absence can be jarring and convince them that something has gone wrong, even though their wellbeing and sense of freedom have increased. Many people regard Location 4 as a type of Fundamental Wellbeing that seems a bit far out.
- Some spiritual and religious traditions believe that special abilities go hand-in-glove with Fundamental Wellbeing. They may even base the truth of someone’s claim to being a Finder on them. Other traditions warn their adherents not to get caught up in these types of abilities. They often stress that they can detract from the overall goal of Fundamental Wellbeing. These types of abilities, capabilities, skills, or delusions do not seem to be required components of Fundamental Wellbeing.
- It’s not uncommon for spiritually-oriented people to believe that Finders can transmit a temporary or persistent experience of Fundamental Wellbeing to others. Family and friends are probably the best evidence against the exposure hypothesis. During our research, it was unusual for a Finder’s family to experience Fundamental Wellbeing.
- Some religious and spiritual traditions suggest that experiencing Fundamental Wellbeing literally changes the way the world interacts with Finders. The idea that Fundamental Wellbeing transforms an individual into a perfect picture of health, makes them live forever, and so forth is not supported either overall, or for any location on the continuum that the project has researched thus far. The facts don’t seem to support the idea of synchronistic support for all Finders. Fundamental Wellbeing does not seem to magically make the world support you in an optimum way. Many Finders do report experiencing their lives as more synchronistic.
- Joy is another common indicator that is used as feedback by some in Locations 2 and 3. When a decision needs to be made, Finders might try to imagine or “feel into” the possible choices, looking for the one that brings up the most joy in them. This sense of joy is often associated with increased feelings of synchronistic support.
- An alternative strategy of synchronicity and flow generation that Finders use is trying to just surrender to the ongoing flow of life, no matter what is happening. The strategy rests on being centered in the present moment, and its sense of underlying perfection.
- In Location 4 and beyond, the absence of agency can make every moment seem synchronistic. It feels as though everything is just emerging; every word and action, as well as everything else in their environment.
- Some Finders describe the ability to be able able to “wish” or “intend” for events to happen and have them manifest. Their hypothesis is that if you believe something is possible, it actually is. These individuals have often meticulously experimented with this over many years. Fundamental Wellbeing is often viewed as a key element in making this work. There are a variety of beliefs about why, but most center on an importance of being released from personal desires and / or being in greater alignment with deeper levels of reality.
- There doesn’t seem to be a strong relationship between specific sexual changes and continuum location, except at Location 4. Here, Finders are much more likely to report a temporary loss of their sex drive. Many people have suppressed sexual urges. The feelings of certainty, truth, and perfection that arrive with Fundamental Wellbeing can combine to make Finders feel more at ease with expressing their sexuality.
- Family relationships can be among the most challenging aspects of Fundamental Wellbeing. Some couples have long-lasting friction between them that they view as positive. These individuals often believe it is important to their pursuit of Fundamental Wellbeing to uncover triggers to work on.
- Many who pursue Fundamental Wellbeing have partners that are ambivalent or even outright against it.
- Most Finders transition to Fundamental Wellbeing in relative isolation.
- By far the best relationships are both with and between Finders who have spent plenty of time around other Finders.
- Finders are also less prone to remain in a relationship for the “sake of the children.”
- The two main culprits for divorce are: having the feeling of inner peace “pushed down,” as mentioned in an earlier chapter, and the difficulty of living with a partner who cannot return feelings of personal love.
- Fundamental Wellbeing is about peace. A very special kind of peace settles in as part of the transition, and is the part of the experience that most people say they’d never want to part with. A Finder’s life is ultimately about their relationship to this newly found peace. Every choice and action is weighed, consciously and unconsciously, against the impact that it will have on inner peace. Peace is prized above all else, but life brings caveats.
- Most people feel too busy to sit and meditate for a meaningful amount of time. Even if meditation systems work extremely well, this fact alone is a huge limiter on the impact Fundamental Wellbeing can make today. This is the age of pills and push buttons, and one of these is most likely going to be needed for large numbers of people to experience Fundamental Wellbeing, decide if it is right for them, and ease their integration into it.
- The problem is that research up to this point has revealed that most of the regions related to Fundamental Wellbeing in the brain are very deep, and this makes them hard to reach with existing technology.
- One promising technology that is being explored, Transcranial Focused Ultrasound (FUS): a device that uses sound to modulate the brain noninvasively through the skull. The ability to activate or reduce activity in regions of the brain that are associated with Fundamental Wellbeing has already been shown using neurofeedback.
- Right now, it seems as though we are all at the mercy of the brain’s responses to methods like meditation. Ultimately they are just using natural tendencies in the brain to organize itself into experiences that take the form of Locations 1, 2, and so on.
- Technology like FUS can most likely create clusters of experience that nature doesn’t normally produce on its own.
- In recent years, a Fundamental Wellbeing protocol developed by our research project called the Finders Course helped just over 70% of the hundreds of people who completed it become Finders.
- Participants in the study who stuck with a technique that seemed to be doing something typically made a more rapid transition into Fundamental Wellbeing. Those willing to abandon things that were not working for them and try other techniques until they found one that produced an effect also made more rapid transitions. Those who stuck with a practice that did not appear to be working took the longest amount of time to reach Fundamental Wellbeing.
- Some viewed their long and dedicated spiritual practice as what was necessary to get their mind to finally accept that it had done all it could, and surrender.
- Many Finders were not happy prior to Fundamental Wellbeing, with bouts of depression being common.
These notes were taken from Jeffery's book.
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